My cancer experience raised for me many of the same kinds of dating dilemmas that women face with breast cancer.For instance, early on (it’s now been 29 years since my diagnosis), I was rather self-conscious about scars (three, totaling about 21 inches) and the loss of a body part (my right egg)."Until I found Cancer Dating Service, I was unusually shy about dating.Ya, cancer can have that effect :) But a few days in, I received a message from a man who was caring, nice, & so funny. A woman would think I was insane, an idiot, or an insane idiot. In September I decided to get off Tamoxifen, so I could finally reclaim my life.
I had one date who left me at the table, after saying she could not date a guy who’d had breast cancer. Circle Yes or No.” It always worked in the good ‘ol days, when I was an 11-year-old kid in the 6th grade. You have to answer 100 questions to get the right matches for you. It’s kind of sad, how that works these days, actually. It isn’t like they were doing me much good anyway, right? I am not in my 20s anymore, and it is a lot harder to work that area now. That would make for a very interested conversation, wouldn’t it? Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have read on this website.Like many women in treatment for breast cancer or survivors of it, I wish there had been “A Cancer’s Survivor Dating Rule Book” to guide me. And, the biggest fear is rejection.” I certainly remember that fear: There’s no one right time to spring the news.Jean Rowe, LCSW, program manager for survival ship and support at the Young Survival Coalition (a national organization that helps young women face the challenges of breast cancer) has found that when women start to date again it’s like “tipping their big toe in the water—and it’s terrifying.” As she told me on the phone, “When to tell? So much depends on how you feel about yourself—and on the personality of that new person. Rowe suggests that if you’ve gone out with someone four times, that’s often a good benchmark for talking about your condition.You may feel different about yourself and uncertain about your future or where a new relationship will fit into your life.If cancer has changed your appearance, it’s normal to be uncomfortable or self-conscious about it. That way you can become more relaxed in new social situations, with less pressure.